I've been reflecting lately on my role as faculty adviser to undergraduates here at Carroll and about those faculty who played such a crucial role in that capacity for me, shaping how and why I relate to students and former students. At Oberlin College my most influential adviser was Ralph H. Turner. Ralph, the first faculty member to invite me to address him by his first name,somehow was able to provide the right balance of challenge and support I most assuredly needed both inside and outside the classroom. I fondly and respectfully remember him as intellectually curious, patient, playful, generous in his time with me, kind, and willing to stay in touch with me even across the years that I was continuing my education at The Ohio State University.
I was blessed with a similar and even deeper rich and enduring relationship at Ohio State with Tom Ostrom, adviser, research collaborator, mentor, friend, and role model until the day of his untimely death. Tom provided emotional support for me while I struggled with the likelihood of being pulled out of graduate school to be sent to Vietnam, listened to me as I sorted out my thoughts about getting married, wrote me a teasing letter about a study I should do if I ended up in jail, guided me in the transition from the intense research world of Ohio State to my current home at Carroll and inspired me to share with others my love of learning. His wisdom, lust for life, optimism, sense of humor, firmness, and candor still guide and humble me.
As I've written elsewhere, both individuals so impacted my life in so many ways. I draw upon their wisdom each time I am interacting with a student in an advising capacity. Advising is much more than helping students make the transition from high school, providing advice in course selection, or giviing guidance in deciding whether there is an afterlife after graduating from Carroll. The lessons taught me by Ralph and Tom and the wisdom shared with me by alumni aren't and can't be learned from adviser training workshops!